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Relationship Instability: Take Action to Make it Stable Again

  • Posted on April 5, 2017 at 1:00 pm
Relationship Instability: Take Action to Make it Stable Again

Relationship instability is a problem many couples suffer from. Relationship instability, if not addressed, can lead to the ultimate devastation of a relationship. When a relationship is very unstable, it breeds insecurity, dysfunctional behavior, and tons and tons of drama. If you are in an unstable relationship, you are not really…

Angry Couples in Relationships

  • Posted on February 3, 2017 at 7:02 pm
Angry Couples in Relationships

Angry couples in relationships are at a seriously dangerous crossroads. If the couple does not find a way to become less angry at one another the relationship will only get more toxic. Too many couples, when they know one or both parties are very angry, either do nothing to help…

Self Entitlement Sabotaging Your Relationship?

  • Posted on October 24, 2016 at 6:32 pm
Self Entitlement Sabotaging Your Relationship?

Self entitlement has a way of sabotaging relationships. We should all feel entitled to love, and for someone to love us. Self entitlement often sets the stage for the ultimate destruction of the relationship. If only one partner’s needs and desires are important, the other eventually gets tired of it…

Allowing Bad Behavior in Relationships

  • Posted on June 29, 2015 at 4:19 pm
Bad Behavior in Relationships

Do you allow bad behavior in your relationship? Have you felt you must tolerate bad behavior in your relationship out of fear? Have you been afraid to call someone out on their bad behavior because they might break up with you? Would you rather just suck it up than speak up…

Waiting for Things to Get Better?

  • Posted on October 22, 2014 at 6:43 pm
waiting for things to get better

Waiting for Things to Get Better?

Do you find yourself waiting for things to get better? What makes so many people believe that the act of waiting will make things better in their relationships?

The passage of time clearly has shown them that things got worse, not better. So why are they continuing to hope,pray, and wait for things to get better in their relationship? Waiting around for the other person to change their habits, lifestyle, choices and behaviors is clearly not the right approach. Stop waiting for change, and begin creating the change.

There is a saying that you cant change other people. That is true, to a point. What you can change is yourself, and you can begin by changing what you accept,deal with, put up with, allow and wait for. In doing that, the other person is forced to make a change themselves or remain the same. If they really love you and are willing to change, then they will. If they don’t, they never were going to anyway.

What you set in motion by changing yourself instead of just waiting around is speed up the process. You will either get the changes in your relationship you were waiting for or you will lose the illusion that you had that is was ever going to change and get better.

You can wait in a productive manner, or a passive manner. If you have waited for improvements in your relationship only using your voice it may be time to add a little action as well. Words without action are empty. Empty words and threats rarely if ever make drastic changes. Those of you verbalizing the same demands for change over and over yet not getting them should know this. So stop waiting around for things to get better and make yourself better.

Make yourself a person who demands and gets respect. Make yourself a person who doesn’t put up with nonsense and drama. Make yourself a person who does not tolerate mistreatment. Make yourself a person who is willing to walk away from a situation or relationship that no longer serves them well. If you do that, you won’t have to wait too long for things to get better.

Things will change for the better from within, and cause everything else around them to change as well. So what are you waiting for?

Being the Bigger Person – Are You the Only Adult in Your Relationship?

  • Posted on November 16, 2013 at 4:56 pm

Being the bigger person in a relationship can make you the only adult in your relationship. When you are always trying to keep the peace, you may be enabling childish behavior to exist in your relationship. A healthy adult relationship requires TWO adults, not just one. When childish behavior causes your relationship to deteriorate, you may find yourself resorting to childish behavior yourself. This is the wrong thing to do. It is bad enough when an adult relationship has one person acting like a child. When both parties act like children, the drama and chaos take over.  Problems are not handled, they are fight about over and over. Rather than finding solutions to problems, childish behavior only creates more problems.  An adult can try and be reasonable and can be reasoned with. A child often throws temper tantrums when they do not get their way. How can an adult relationship flourish if both parties won’t act and behave like an adult? Simply put, it cannot.

You may think you are doing the right thing when you are forced to deal with a romantic partner and their childish ways. Instead, you not only enable the childish behavior to continue, but you allow the habit to form. When a person learns they get what they want, even through negative means, the lesson is taught. They then go with what works for them, and the more it works, the more they will resort to childish behavior and ways. The longer any habit continues, the longer and harder it is to fully break that habit. So why would a grown adult choose to behave like a child? Same reason a child acts out – because it gets them what they want. If you don’t give them what they want, only then will they consider changing their ways.

If your adult relationship has begun to feel like you are the parent and they are the child, or that the both of you are acting like schoolkids, it is time to grow up. It is time to break those bad habits once and for all. We are not always perfect, and once in a while we may act babyish, and as long as it is rare, it is only human. But if it is constant and continual, it is time to create positive change. If one or both of you does not grow up, your relationship won’t grow either. If you are having problems in a relationship because of childish behavior, why not get a psychic relationship reading? If you need to be called out for childish behavior of your own, you will be. If you want a healthy adult relationship, allow our psychic guidance and no nonsense answers help you break the bad habits and create positive change today.

Relationship Limbo: How To Get Out Of Relationship Limbo

  • Posted on October 7, 2013 at 4:49 pm
Relationship Limbo: How To Get Out Of Relationship Limbo

Relationship Limbo: How To Get Out Of Relationship Limbo

When your relationship is stuck in limbo, it rarely gets better on its own. Quite often, to get out of relationship limbo requires a big push or major changes. What exactly is relationship limbo? Relationship limbo is when your relationship is either in a state of stagnation, not really moving forward, or when your relationship fails to grow and stabilize within normal healthy boundaries. What are signs that your relationship is in a state of relationship limbo? Below is a list of examples of how a relationship can get to and remain in a state of limbo:

1. If you have been dating without exclusivity for beyond a reasonable amount of time, you are in relationship limbo. You are spinning your wheels yet not getting anywhere towards a relationship and may never get there.

2. If you have an on/off relationship where you break up all the time (not by your choosing) and get back together (again, not by your choosing) then your relationship is one in relationship limbo as well. Because you keep breaking up and hitting the “restart button” all the time, the relationship never really has stability and security, and without those two things, your relationship cannot grow. Relationships need a steady foundation, and an on/off relationship doesn’t have one, no matter how long it has been going on.

3. If you are in an affair your relationship, actually both of them if you are the one who is married, is in a state of relationship limbo. Neither relationship can grow, and both stagnate because of the others existence. Just because there may be longevity to the affair doesn’t mean it is maturing and evolving in a positive way.

4. If you are growing apart, no matter how slowly, your relationship is in limbo because the growth process has stopped.

5. If you are focused on an ex, dealing with an ex, or have a lack of closure with an ex you are in relationship limbo. If you cannot move forward, move past, or get over an old relationship you are never truly open to a new one.

6. If you cannot get a commitment from your current partner, and a reasonable amount of time has passed, your relationship is stagnating in relationship limbo.

7. If the passion, sexual attraction, and monogamy is missing from a relationship that once had it, your relationship has moved into the limbo state.

8. If the communication has shut down or is only volatile or destructive and there is no real sharing or loving communication then again, relationship limbo has set in.

9. If you are waiting for someone to want to have a relationship with you and they have never expressed the desire to have one, you too are in relationship limbo.  Waiting for a relationship that will never come to pass and pinning your romantic future on someone who does not have the same desire is self-destructive.

10. If you are involved with a drama queen or drama king, their issues and tactics will put you in relationship limbo because their behavior will constantly and continually sabotage the relationship.

So how do you get out of relationship limbo? Can you? Consult psychic relationship readers Sarah and Sophia and find out the truth.



Are You In The Friend Zone- Can You Get Out of The Friend Zone?

  • Posted on September 29, 2013 at 8:53 pm

What do you do if you find yourself in the friend zone but you want more? You may desperately want out of the friend zone, but can you get out? When placed in the friend zone, are you permanently stuck there? Is there any way to escape the dreaded friend zone? What if the person you love will never let you leave the friend zone?

First, the friend zone is not always a permanent residence.  Just because they put you in the box does not mean you cannot ever get out. Some people, over time, and at a different place in their live begin to see others differently. The problem is that could take a long time. Longer than you may be willing to wait.  So what should you do when you are stuck in the friend zone with no way out in sight?

Should you profess your feelings as a way to get out? This is not an easy answer, and can easily backfire on you badly. If the other person is not ready to see you in any othetr way other than friends, telling them your feelings make make them uneasy. If their reaction to you as a romantic partner is negative right now, you don’t want that to be an image they fixate on. That is worse than the friend zone. That is the “there is no way in hell” zone. Much harder to get out of for sure.  It is diffucult to deal with when someone is not ready to share your feelings, but that is a reality you may have to deal with. All by yourself.

Are You In The Friend Zone- Can You Get Out of The Friend Zone?

Are You In The Friend Zone- Can You Get Out of The Friend Zone?

In some cases, letting your feelings out in subtle ways rather than just blurting them out can get your “friend” more use to the idea. If you are a little more flirty or affectionate you may get them to awaken or warm up t0 the idea. It may have taken you a while to get there, and you may be able to help them get there too.

So what is your best bet for getting out of the friend zone and is it even possible? A psychic reading can really be of benefit to you before you make a drastic mistake. You don’t want to lose your chance to become more, and you don’t want to lose the friendship either. To get a better idea of the feelings he or she has for you or doesn’t have for you can be found with a psychic reading.

Playing the Blame Game- No One Wins The Blame Game So Why Play?

  • Posted on August 18, 2013 at 2:02 pm

The blame game is played for different reasons, and in different ways. Do you play the blame game with yourself? Is the blame game being played out in your relationships? Since no one really wins the blame game, it is about time we quit playing.  Let’s first look at why the blame game even comes into play in the first place.

If you had say a rough childhood where your parents were never very affectionate, you are faced with two choices. You can rise about your parents treatment of you and move on with your future. In doing so you can have more affectionate relationships going forward without looking back. Or, you can choose to play the blame game going forward and attracted unaffectionate people to you or seek them out yourself. Since you are blaming your parents, will feel powerless to obtain affection from others because you let your past direct your future.

Why would someone pick the second option? Some people simply cannot get over their past and let go of it. They don’t have to accept any responsibility for their future, because the blame will forever remain with their parents.  When you play the blame game you always give the fault to someone else. The problem is, you never empower yourself to create the changes in your life, relationships, career or finances that you really desire.

Playing the Blame Game- No One Wins The Blame Game So Why Play?

Playing the Blame Game- No One Wins The Blame Game So Why Play?

Someone who doesn’t want to accept responsibility for their own role in their life or to accept any consequences for what they said or did (or didn’t say or didn’t do) will simply resort to the blame game. Didn’t get the promotion? Well, it couldn’t be their fault, play the blame game and blame your boss for being unfair. It surely couldn’t have anything to do with the fact that you come in late and don’t get your reports in on time. Nope!! When playing the blame game it never has anything to do with you, it is always about someone else.

Had a fight with your boyfriend? Make it all his fault by playing the blame game! He was the one that made the comment about going out to eat for dinner which then caused you to snap at him. You wouldn’t have had to if he simply used his brain and thought before he spoke. Couldn’t he tell you were in a bad mood just by looking at you? Couldn’t he tell you weren’t in the mood to go out and needed quiet time alone with him and not in some stupid restaurant? How can he be so selfish and unaware of your needs? When you play the blame game, you have nothing to apologize for. They are the ones that need to apologize to you. After all, they started it, right? Wrong.

Are you in a relationship, career, or have a friend or family member that plays the blame game with you? Are you playing the blame game in your relationships? (whether it be romantic, just friends, or familial relationships) If this is happening, you need to put an end to it at once. But can you? Can you stop playing the blame game with others or get others to stop playing it with you? A psychic relationship reading with Sarah Adelle and Sophia Elise can help you create the change you are looking for in all of your relationships. It all starts with you.

Holding a Grudge Keeps Your Relationship From Growing Part 2

  • Posted on August 11, 2013 at 5:54 pm

When someone betrays you and hurts you deeply it is easy to hold a grudge. When it comes as a shock or surprise because you never expected that person do ever do something like this to you, it is even easier. If the person that did this terrible thing to you shows a lack of remorse, it is even easier to hold a grudge. What are the effects of holding a grudge? Sometimes you feel you must hold this grudge as an effort to punish them, when you only wind up punishing yourself in many cases.

When it comes to relationships, if one or both partners are holding grudges, there is no room for love to grow.  Ignoring problems or past hurts never allows things to get better, only to get worse. Holding a grudge is like holding on to garbage and not throwing it out. You can hide it in your basement and you may think, for a while, that it is not affecting your home very badly. Several years down the road, what happens? Your entire house smells bad and there are bugs everywhere. Same thing happens when you hold a grudge in a relationship. At first, you may not be aware of the damage that is created because you chose to hold a grudge. Down the line though, your whole relationship will be affected, just like that house.

So how can you keep from holding a grudge or let go of one. First, if you really want this relationship to have a chance, accept that you simply must. If you decide you cannot let go of the grudge then end the relationship now and stop wasting your time in it. Holding a grudge is a choice. And if you choose to hold that grudge please be prepared to accept the consequences and the responsibility too for what happened. Sure, they did or said whatever they did that hurt you so bad, but you could have ended the relationship. Why would you continue to be with someone you cannot ever forgive anyway? Can’t you see how doomed the relationship is?

Holding a Grudge Keeps Your Relationship From Growing Part 2

Holding a Grudge Keeps Your Relationship From Growing Part 2

Now what if someone has chosen to hold a grudge against you in your relationship and won’t let go of it? Well, this one is not up to you. It is up to them. If you have tried everything to be forgiven and show remorse, it may be time for you to give them an ultimatum. Either let this go and let’s move past this, or hold the grudge all by yourself. If you have not shown remorse yet then what are you waiting for? Get to it!!

If you are having a problem with grudges affecting your relationships and future happiness, allow Sophia Elise and Sarah Adelle to help you loosen the grip this grudge has on you and your partner.