Destiny and fate often go hand in hand in peoples minds.
When we find ourselves meeting someone significant to us in a bizarre way, we may chalk it up to destiny doing it’s job. But how much of our relationship should be left to destiny? Not much.
You may not be able to control how or when you meet people you eventually love, but how long they stay in your life is more in your hands than in the hands of fate. If you think that just because you were destined to meet someone that destiny is responsible for keeping you together forever, you are mistaken. Destiny gives you a chance. A chance at love, a career opportunity, or can change the path you were on. Where you go from there is on you, not just on destiny.
So let’s say you met someone you feel you were destined to meet because of the amazing bond and chemistry you share. Congratulations. Good for you. But remember, that is step one. Destiny will take a back seat and give the two of you a chance to screw it up or treasure it. It is up to the two of you to take the gift that destiny has bestowed upon you and do with it what you will. Just because destiny helped you out once, doesn’t mean it will always be there as your relationship repair kit. If either of you lie, cheat, or behave in any way that disrespects the relationship, destiny will not bail you out. Destiny is not responsible for bad choices or habits or behaviors the two of you allowed to become a part of your relationship. YOU created that, YOU fix it.
Destiny has other things to do. Destiny may step in here and there, but the heavy lifting is really up to the couple. You cannot expect destiny to create major changes in your relationship. Destiny did not create the problem, whoever did is responsible for turning things around. If you or your partner has done a lot of damage to the foundation of your relationship, it is time to take control. A dysfunctional relationship will only get more dysfunctional with time. Problems in relationships should not be ignored, they should be dealt with maturely. Don’t rely on destiny to bail you out.
Destiny gives us opportunities. Some can be positive, some negative. But we must work together with destiny and our free will to take those opportunities and create positive out of them. Look at your relationship and see what you can do, no matter how big or small that can create positive changes right now. Begin using your own power guide your relationship down a better path instead of waiting for destiny to take the wheel.