Many people want to start off the new year with a new relationship. New Year’s Eve is a couples holiday. Single people without someone special in their life often make a wish, or even a resolution to not be alone next New Year’s Eve. But is it all that easy? It isn’t like going to the store and buying the perfect Christmas gift. Finding the right new relationship that can last several decades worth of New Year’s eves is not as easy as some people seem to think it is, or that it should be. So many people lament to us about how hard it is to meet the right person for them, when it truth, they shouldn’t expect it to be easy. Of course there are people who are lucky enough to find the right people for them quickly, but not everyone is that lucky.
Many people settle for someone they know isn’t their ideal mate because they are tired of wading in the dating pool. Many people pretend to be happy on the outside with their relationships when behind closed doors it is another story altogether. If celebrities who are in the public eye can hide the trouble in their relationships, why wouldn’t you think your friends, neighbors, or co-workers can’t hide it as well? So many things perpetuate the myth that it should be easy to find a new relationship that is right for you within a month or two or their is something wrong with you. Why is it, that women can’t find a bridal gown at a bridal store, with thousands of gowns to choose from yet think finding the right new relationship that could lead to marriage should be easier than finding the right gown? With the new year approaching us, shouldn’t we resolve to not get into a new relationship unless it is with the right person? Shouldn’t we start raising our standards rather than lower them? Shouldn’t we make it our goal to be o.k. with being alone rather than taking bad risks with our next new relationship? Shouldn’t we tell ourselves that this new year will be different because we will make better choices this year and every year from now on? Wouldn’t it be a great idea to love who we are to know what we deserve and what we don’t? The best gift you can get this holiday season is the one you give to yourself, and that is realizing that there is someone out there who would be lucky to have you.