Valentine’s Day when you’ve broken up is especially difficult. Many people have experienced their relationships ending right before, or even on, Valentine’s Day! That makes Valentine’s Day especially hard to bear. It worse is when all you want is your ex back, instead of being angry at them. You hate being broken up and want to be back together.
You may think they have moved on and will be celebrating Valentine’s Day with someone else. It pains you to think of them happy with a new love while you still have not gotten the break up. You feel tempted to call them or text them and wish them a happy Valentine’s Day. But when they don’t answer the call or text, you wind up feeling even worse.
What are you supposed to do on Valentine’s Day when you have broken up and you are not over it yet? How do you handle it when it seems like everyone on earth but you is celebrating love with someone special? All you can think about is your ex and it hurts knowing they haven’t reached out to reconcile. It depresses you to know that Valentine’s Day could come and go without them thinking about you, especially since you cannot stop thinking about them. So is Valentine’s Day just a form or torture or a sign you need to accept that you have broken up and move on?
First, don’t let Valentine’s Day make you do something stupid. If your relationship has ended don’t let Valentine’s Day make you do something you will regret. Don’t let the sentimentally and the fact you are alone on Valentine’s Day make you lose your mind. Don’t forget the break up and why it happened. If you did it, more than likely you had good reasons to do so. Those reasons should not be put on the back burner for a 24 hour holiday. It more than likely took a lot of guts to break up with someone you still cared about, so don’t undo it based on a temporary feeling.
Let Valentine’s Day come and go and then use your brain, instead of your emotions, to look back on your relationship. If they broke up with you, focus on the break up. Did they have a valid reason for breaking up or are they just sabotaging what you could have? Do people break up with all the time for no good reason? If your answer to either of those questions is yes, then you need to take a more hardened look at your ex.
You didn’t deserve what they did, and you should not be ready, willing and able to sign up for that to happen to you again. Your ex is showing you who they are and you really should not like their real self. That part needs to change. You really need to put your foot down and change how you react to the break ups and your part of getting back together. Change your ways or they won’t change theirs and you will wind up spending many, many Valentine’s Days alone.
Don’t worry so much about them coming back, but worry about it getting worse the next time around, and do something different so they do something different. If you focus on creating change within yourself first, which can create change with them, you may never have to face Valentine’s Day alone again.