Will your soul mate and his ex make it? For some unknown reason, that to you could never make sense, your soul mate decided to let go of your great relationship and try to make it with his ex.
You remember his ex, right? The one they said treated them like crap? The ex that they said wouldn’t be intimate with them or that the intimacy wasn’t good? The ex that they couldn’t be or didn’t want to be affectionate with? The ex that they have broken up with numerous times? The ex that they have cheated on (or had been cheated on)? The ex that they pretty much had not one good thing to say about? Yes, that ex.
And you wonder if they will make it? Seriously? The only thing they had in the past was a crazy, toxic relationship. What would make you or them think they will somehow make it this time? Why would you not think history will repeat itself and that the same problems they have been unable to deal with in the past they won’t be able to deal with this time either? That is what you both should be thinking.
It defies logic and common sense to think that something that was so badly broken could be easily fixed. It makes no sense to think that people with such horrible relationship skills and patterns will turn their dysfunction into something healthy and happy. So, the prognosis it not too positive. Change is really hard, and you have to work at it consistently to make it stick.
Of course when they first get back together it will be all sunshine and roses. Big deal. But will that short period of time help them to make it long-term. Nope, not at all. When the same issues come up yet again, and of course they will, the same old issues that plagued them before will ruin everything again.
The reason many soul mates go back to their ex is because they are actually running away from their soulmate. The familiarity of their crazy ex and their crazy relationship is what they are used to. This new relationship, where their emotions are connections are off the charts, is scarier than dealing with their crappy old relationship.
Many soul mates will run back to their ex to try to make that work rather than face their fears and surrender to their soulmate. There is less risk of getting hurt and devastated by someone who can’t hurt you than there is by someone who you truly care about. It is no surprise to hear that a soulmate ran back to his ex to try to make it work yet again. It happens more than you think.
Even if a soul mate doesn’t try to make it work with an ex they may still just run away to be by themselves. What is most important is how you let this affect you and your soul mate relationship. Don’t give their ex more power than they have. They are not the one your soul mate really cares for. Don’t make the ex out to be the enemy here. They didn’t manipulate your soul mate, your soul mate is a grown adult responsible adult that is accountable for their choices and actions.
They made the choice, not the ex. Your soul mate is not a puppet, they did what they wanted to do, regardless of the reason they told you why. When it doesn’t work out between your soul mate and their ex, hold them accountable for the hurt and mistrust they caused you. Don’t just welcome them back with open arms, don’t just give them a piece of your mind. Make them work for it, big time.