Do you miss him and wonder does he miss you? Have you been trying to forget about your ex but finding thoughts of them keep creeping up on you? It’s hard to not think about an ex, especially when the break up is still fresh in your mind. We have a tendency to think about the good times, and how much we miss him. If you still hold out hope you may reconcile, you have the he will miss you too. When a break up happens, especially if it is unexpected, we focus on the good times and all the things we will miss out on. We forget about the red flags and recurring problems and instead often look back wearing rose-colored glasses.
It is hard when you wish you could have another chance but don’t think you ever will. Things with your ex might not be what they seem. Sure, you may be hearing how they have moved on. You may see pictures of them on social media smiling and looking happy. This makes you miserable because you miss him so much and it seems like he does not miss you at all. But how do you know that he isn’t just putting on a front and that those pictures are how he really feels? You would be surprised how often, out of the blue, an ex you thought had moved on comes back into the picture.
It is ok to miss your ex, but it is not ok to dwell on that. Dwelling on that not only keeps you from moving forward, it keeps you in a state of depression. You don’t get anything by self sabotaging yourself. Your ex is not going to come back out of pity. The universe isn’t going to take pity on you and bring them back either. You have to find a way to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and find a way to keep on the path to closure.
Almost everyone on earth has gone through a breakup, and some are worse than others. You can survive it, just like everyone else has. It takes time, and it is painful, but you deserve another chance at happiness, and you will find it, with someone new, or your ex if they come back. It may seem like an impossible task, and you may feel your life is meaningless without your ex. You have to stay strong, and you have to take it day by day.
You may believe your ex will never return, but you don’t know for sure. Don’t put yourself through all of that if you don’t need to. No one should hold on to false hope, but unless you know for sure, don’t just assume. Your ex may miss you as much as you miss him. They may have other reasons, rather than not just wanting to get back with you, for not coming back right away. Give them the time they need to work on themselves, and use that time to work on yourself. He may come back with a greater sense of clarity about his feelings for you and the future of your relationship.
There are millions of couples that have broken up and gotten back together. Not all of them got back together right away either. Time is not necessarily a factor in determining if a couple will try again. So remember, when you find yourself missing him, he may also be missing you too.