A soul mate’s ex-girlfriend can be quite the problem, despite the fact that she is an ex. When you are in a relationship with a soul mate who is a runner, who do you think they run to? When a soul mate is a runner, in many cases they run back to their ex-girlfriend. It can actually become a long running pattern in your relationship. Your soul mate will find an excuse to run from you and run to their ex-girlfriend.
You get angry, cry, try to move on, whatever. Then guess who runs from his ex-girlfriend straight back to you? Your soul mate. But then it happens again. And again. And again. You begin to question your soul mate’s love for you. You wonder if your soul mate’s ex-girlfriend has some sort of weird hold on him. You really begin to believe his ex-girlfriend means a lot to him and he can’t end things with her for good.
That could be the case, but there are many reasons a soul mate runs back to his ex-girlfriend. He could be doing it to sabotage his relationship with you because of misplaced fear. He could be doing it because he has commitment issues. He could be doing it because he is a dysfunctional idiot. Either way, your soul mate and his ex girlfriend can drive you insane.
Your soul mate’s ex-girlfriend could be trying to get him back. It may not matter to her that you are in his life now. It may not matter to her that your relationship makes him happy. She doesn’t care, she wants him back and no matter what he says she keeps trying. It is hard not to want to lash out at her for disrespecting you and your relationship. The best thing you and your soul mate can do in a situation like this is to just ignore his ex-girlfriend. Give her zero attention and zero energy so she has nothing to feed off of. Try and keep from fighting about this with your soul mate.
It is not his fault, she has her own free will. If he is giving her attention though, he needs to stop it and you have a right to be mad at him for doing so. She isn’t taking subtle hints, so he needs to be more firm and up front with his ex-girlfriend.
Your soul mate’s ex-girlfriend may try a personal attack on you. She may call or text your phone at all hours of the day or night. She may leave you nasty messages, or even try to mess with your car. She may try to spread false rumors about you to make you look bad or embarrass you. You soul mate’s ex-girlfriend may even use social media to bully or annoy you. Of course she will deny all of it, if questioned. It’s hard to deal with, but this all will pass if again you don’t feed into it. Why should you? You have your soul mate, she doesn’t. Pay her no mind.
Some ex-girlfriends will even lie about being pregnant to get their ex back. Even in this day and age, with DNA tests and everything, it still happens. Your soul mate and his ex-girlfriend may have children together, and whether she wants him back or not, she may use them to cause drama. You need to respect the fact that your soul mate has children. They need to respect your place in your soul mate’s life. It is not understandable why you have not met his children yet if you have been in a long-term relationship. They are a part of his life, and so are you, so at some point you should be introduced to one another. You are his soul mate, not his dirty little secret. He may be keeping you away from his children because of how his ex-girlfriend will react. How she reacts is her problem. not yours. He needs to put you first.
Having a soul mate is a wonderful experience, even though their ex-girlfriends can make trouble. Have any of you had bad experiences with a soul mate’s ex-girlfriend? Comment below and share your stories!