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Valentine’s Day After a Break-Up

  • Posted on February 9, 2017 at 2:00 pm

Valentine’s Day when you’ve broken up is especially difficult. Many people have experienced their relationships ending right before, or even on, Valentine’s Day! That makes Valentine’s Day especially hard to bear. It worse is when all you want is your ex back, instead of being angry at them. You hate being broken up and want to be back together.

 

You may think they have moved on and will be celebrating Valentine’s Day with someone else. It pains you to think of them happy with a new love while you still have not gotten the break up. You feel tempted to call them or text them and wish them a happy Valentine’s Day. But when they don’t answer the call or text, you wind up feeling even worse.

Valentine's Day After a Break-Up

Valentine’s Day After a Break-Up

What are you supposed to do on Valentine’s Day when you have broken up and you are not over it yet? How do you handle it when it seems like everyone on earth but you is celebrating love with someone special? All you can think about is your ex and it hurts knowing they haven’t reached out to reconcile. It depresses you to know that Valentine’s Day could come and go without them thinking about you, especially since you cannot stop thinking about them. So is Valentine’s Day just a form or torture or a sign you need to accept that you have broken up and move on?

 

First, don’t let Valentine’s Day make you do something stupid. If your relationship has ended don’t let Valentine’s Day make you do something you will regret. Don’t let the sentimentally and the fact you are alone on Valentine’s Day make you lose your mind. Don’t forget the break up and why it happened. If you did it, more than likely you had good reasons to do so. Those reasons should not be put on the back burner for a 24 hour holiday. It more than likely took a lot of guts to break up with someone you still cared about, so don’t undo it based on a temporary feeling.

 

Let Valentine’s Day come and go and then use your brain, instead of your emotions, to look back on your relationship. If they broke up with you, focus on the break up. Did they have a valid reason for breaking up or are they just sabotaging what you could have? Do people break up with all the time for no good reason? If your answer to either of those questions is yes, then you need to take a more hardened look at your ex.

 

You didn’t deserve what they did, and you should not be ready, willing and able to sign up for that to happen to you again. Your ex is showing you who they are and you really should not like their real self. That part needs to change. You really need to put your foot down and change how you react to the break ups and your part of getting back together. Change your ways or they won’t change theirs and you will wind up spending many, many Valentine’s Days alone.

 

Don’t worry so much about them coming back, but worry about it getting worse the next time around, and do something different so they do something different. If you focus on creating change within yourself first, which can create change with them, you may never have to face Valentine’s Day alone again.

Are You Still Stuck on Your Ex? Time to Move Forward with YOUR Life

  • Posted on January 26, 2017 at 4:05 am
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Are you still stuck on your ex? Are you trying as hard as you can to get over your ex but it isn’t working? Do you wish you could move on and find someone else but are having no luck? Do you wonder what your ex is doing and if they are…

Will Your Soul Mate and His Ex Make It?

  • Posted on January 12, 2017 at 3:00 pm
Will Your Soul mate and His Ex Make It?

Will your soul mate and his ex make it? For some unknown reason, that to you could never make sense, your soul mate decided to let go of your great relationship and try to make it with his ex. You remember his ex, right? The one they said treated them…

Will Your Ex Remain an Ex or Will You Get Back Together?

  • Posted on December 5, 2016 at 3:00 pm

Will your ex remain an ex or will you get back together again? So many clients call us wondering if the status with their ex is a permanent one. For all the worrying, over analyzing and tears, one must remember that it is not certain that your ex will even remain your ex. The first thing you should take a look at is the relationship prior to the break up. Is there a pattern of breaking up all the time? Do you have an on/off relationship?

 

If you do, then you really need to stop telling yourself this time will be different and they won’t want to reconcile. Rather than think that, simply tell yourself the past will repeat itself and your ex won’t remain an ex forever. You can either worry your ex will remain your ex, or you can give yourself some hope. Worrying and thinking worst case scenario won’t guarantee they will come back, so what use is it to you?
 

Will Your Ex Remain an Ex

Will Your Ex Remain an Ex

There is nothing wrong with trying to stay positive. It can actually keep you from doing something stupid. When you let your mind wander to thoughts of your ex remaining an ex, you can work yourself into a tizzy. When that happens you could do something that could hurt your chances of getting your ex back. Best to stay on the side of caution.

 

Exes get back together all the time. The answer lies within the couple themselves. If there are still strong feelings of love on both sides, then chances are pretty good. Your ex might be angry with you right now, and that anger is all you see and hear. They may still love you, but they are not in a place right now to show it. They have to get over their anger first, so it would be very stupid to anger them further. If they are angry and want space, give it to them. If they are angry and don’t want to talk to you, then don’t try to communicate with them right now.

 

Give them the time they need, regardless of your patience level, because it could make things much more worse. Your ex may remain an ex if the anger keeps escalating, so it is best to let them calm down completely. When you try to talk to an angry person, all they are most likely to do is fight with you. So give the anger time to evaporate, so the love can be shown and felt again. Always remember, just because someone is angry with you does not mean they don’t love you anymore.

 

In some cases, with some couples, the time has come for an ex to remain an ex. If the relationship is too toxic and volatile the couple needs to let go, at least for a while. If down the line, they decide to reconcile with professional help, they may just make it. Without it, they are most likely to repeat the same behaviors only to wind up exes again. If you really want to make it work, seek professional help. You wouldn’t pull your own teeth would you? You wouldn’t fix your own roof or do surgery on yourself would you? No, you would leave it to the professionals. So seek their help if your relationship was out of control and you are thinking of getting back with your ex.

 

The bottom line is each couple has a different path. Some will get back together. Some will remain exes. But if you focus on yourself, and help yourself, you will be ok regardless of what the future holds.

 

You Miss Him but Does He Miss You?

  • Posted on September 11, 2016 at 9:50 am

Do you miss him and wonder does he miss you? Have you been trying to forget about your ex but finding thoughts of them keep creeping up on you? It’s hard to not think about an ex, especially when the break up is still fresh in your mind. We have a tendency to think about the good times, and how much we miss him. If you still hold out hope you may reconcile, you have the he will miss you too. When a break up happens, especially if it is unexpected, we focus on the good times and all the things we will miss out on. We forget about the red flags and recurring problems and instead often look back wearing rose-colored glasses.

You Miss Him but Does He Miss You?

You Miss Him but Does He Miss You?

It is hard when you wish you could have another chance but don’t think you ever will. Things with your ex might not be what they seem. Sure, you may be hearing how they have moved on. You may see pictures of them on social media smiling and looking happy. This makes you miserable because you miss him so much and it seems like he does not miss you at all. But how do you know that he isn’t just putting on a front and that those pictures are how he really feels? You would be surprised how often, out of the blue, an ex you thought had moved on comes back into the picture.

It is ok to miss your ex, but it is not ok to dwell on that. Dwelling on that not only keeps you from moving forward, it keeps you in a state of depression. You don’t get anything by self sabotaging yourself. Your ex is not going to come back out of pity. The universe isn’t going to take pity on you and bring them back either. You have to find a way to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and find a way to keep on the path to closure.

Almost everyone on earth has gone through a breakup, and some are worse than others. You can survive it, just like everyone else has. It takes time, and it is painful, but you deserve another chance at happiness, and you will find it, with someone new, or your ex if they come back. It may seem like an impossible task, and you may feel your life is meaningless without your ex. You have to stay strong, and you have to take it day by day.

You may believe your ex will never return, but you don’t know for sure. Don’t put yourself through all of that if you don’t need to. No one should hold on to false hope, but unless you know for sure, don’t just assume. Your ex may miss you as much as you miss him. They may have other reasons, rather than not just wanting to get back with you, for not coming back right away. Give them the time they need to work on themselves, and use that time to work on yourself. He may come back with a greater sense of clarity about his feelings for you and the future of your relationship.

There are millions of couples that have broken up and gotten back together. Not all of them got back together right away either. Time is not necessarily a factor in determining if a couple will try again. So remember, when you find yourself missing him, he may also be missing you too.

Will He Try to Win You Back?

  • Posted on April 1, 2016 at 3:57 am
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Will he try to win you back? You didn’t want to have to end your relationship, but the time had come. You couldn’t take it anymore, and called the relationship off. Now you can’t help but wonder if they will try to win you back. You don’t want the relationship…

Regret Breaking up or Ending a Relationship?

  • Posted on October 23, 2013 at 1:02 pm

Regret over past decisions, including breaking up or ending a relationship is something many of us have gone through. Quite often after a break up we tend to have regrets and wonder if we did the right thing. There was a reason, of course, why you ended the relationship and caused the break up in the first place. You should only feel regret if your reason for ending the relationship was not good enough, meaning it was not a deal breaker. If the issue that arose was something that could have been dealt with in another way and the break up avoided, your regret may be valid.  We may regret ending a relationship, and want to reconcile, but the damage done by the break up may have our ex seeing things differently. You may be the only one that regrets the decision to break up, while your ex thinks it is for the best. So what do you do now? Beg, plead, cry, and do anything and everything to get your ex back? Will it work? Will you get another chance or did you just throw away the best thing that ever happened to you and something you will regret for the rest of your life.

Regret Breaking up or Ending a Relationship?

Regret Breaking up or Ending a Relationship?

First, before you panic, it is reality check time. Go back to how you thought and what you felt (and why) when the break up occurred. You may think you broke up with your ex for something that was no big deal. Is that really true? Or was it a culmination of hundred of little things that just kept building and building til you finally exploded? If that is the case, look at all those things individually. Write them down. These are all the things that made you unhappy in that relationship and drove you crazy. Don’t focus on the things you miss or love about your ex, allow yourself to see the things you WON’T miss about them. Sure you still want the ex back now? Are you being honest with yourself? Are you being realistic in the knowledge that the same problems, behaviors, and issues are going to continue until they are handled? Do you realize you will keep breaking up if this time apart hasn’t given you both the knowledge that changes need to be made? Are you both ready to execute those changes and make them stick? If you are not, then you will regret getting back together at some point, because you will just break up again. It is only a matter of time.

If your relationship was such a dysfunctional disaster then  you may want to look closer at your regret. Why are you chasing a pipe dream instead of letting it go? Are you allowing fear and insecurity to guide you back down the wrong path again? Are you coming from a place of negativity and think a dysfunctional relationship is the best you can hope for? Would you rather be in the wrong relationship than in no relationship at all? If you are coming from a mindset like that it will be hard for you to make a sensible relationship decision about your future. As a matter of fact, you will probably look back on your decision to reunite as a regret. It is hard for us to go from a part of a couple to on our own. But if it really is in our best interest to do so, then we must face those tough decisions proudly, instead of with regret.

Does He Miss Me: You Miss Him But Does He Miss You?

  • Posted on May 25, 2013 at 2:24 pm
Does He Miss Me: You Miss Him But Does He Miss You?

You can’t get your ex out of your mind and you wonder “Does He Miss Me too?” You cannot stop thinking about him since your relationship ended and there is so much about your ex that you miss. You Keep thinking how good things were at one time, and wonder…

Will We Get Back Together?

  • Posted on October 16, 2012 at 5:54 pm
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“Will we get back together” is right up there with the top two questions we are asked. A psychic relationship reading really is the best way to find out what will come of your break up, and if you will get back together. You may both move on to new relationships…

You Have Been Dumped, But Are You Better Off Without Him?

  • Posted on July 11, 2012 at 3:34 pm

You have been dumped and it is a horrible dis-empowering feeling. Now that your relationship is over, your primary focus may be getting him to give the relationship another chance. You may be focusing on how much you miss the good things about him, or are jealous and hurt that he left you for someone else. What you should really be asking yourself at this time is:  Are you better off without him?

Sometimes, when someone ends a relationship with you, the shock of it keeps you stuck in a strange place. Because you cannot believe they would do it to you, especially after all you have done for them, makes you feel you did not deserve the breakup. But, you have been dumped. When you feel you did not deserve it, you want him to change his mind. Look at it from a different perspective. Maybe you did deserve to be dumped, because the universe wanted you to stop wasting your time with someone so undeserving. The universe may have shown you all the reasons that you should have dumped him, but you chose not to. Maybe you have been dumped because it is the right thing for you, and he was the wrong man for you.

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You Have Been Dumped, But Are You Better Off Without Him?

Stop thinking that he will never find someone as good to him as you were. That is his loss, not yours. You should be looking forward to finding someone who will be better to YOU then he was. Enough of being jealous of the new woman in his life. Feel sorry for her, because she will wind up with the same guy you did. Maybe she deserves him, but you deserve better!! Besides he will probably dump her as well!
Don’t worry about all the time you invested in him. You can now invest your precious time on someone who will give 100% like you did. Don’t focus on the time you wasted, but that you are no longer wasting your time.If this man was good to you, and really treated you well ( not here and there, but 90% of the time) and the bad times were really not bad, then maybe you are not better off without him. If you were happy with who he was, not who you thought he may change into, then he is worthy of an attempt to reconcile. If the bad times were real bad, he needs to stay gone.You are not the only one who gets to decide if he will give this a chance, or if he will dump you again sometime in the future. If he has done this before, you need to know if he will do it again before you give him yet another chance.First realistically decide if you are better or with him, or without him. Then, once you have clarity, you can find the right path for yourself. That path will either lead towards reconciliation, or closure.